If your child learns the right skills, they can calm down in 30 seconds!
What are these skills?
You learned them a long time ago!
Let's pretend that your best friend cancels your lunch and wine tasting plans (that you made a month ago) at the last minute.
Her sister-in-law is in town and has invited the family to brunch …. and she has to go.
You already have the babysitter lined up AND you are dressed and looking forward to a day out.
You understand the conflict..but you can't help feeling that is building up inside. You know.. the one that makes you want to scream: "But I NEVER get to have girl time anymore!"
So what do you do?
You don't yell at your friend. Instead, you say "I understand, maybe next time."
You take a deep breath in, maybe take a sip of coffee or go go on a walk around the block. Eventually, you calm down and move on..because hey… it’s your best friend and it's not her fault.
Once you are calm and thinking clearly, come up with a wonderful way to spend your day doing something else (you can't let a pre-scheduled babysitter go to waste!)
You knew how to:
- Calm Down
- Communicate your feelings
- Problem -Solve!
Why can't your kids do that too?
When adults calm down, we tap into a part of our brains called the prefrontal cortex (PFC). It is in charge of complex cognitive behavior, personality expression, decision making, and moderating our social behavior.
We are born with a brain so kids should be able to do this too right??
Nope! The prefrontal cortex isn't fully developed until we are 25 years old!
We have to teach our children how to manage their feelings in a positive way.
Tantrums are terrifying to children.
Tantrums occur when your child looses control of their feelings, they are unable to communicate and don't know what to do.
Young children react by throwing objects (that they are frustrated with), hitting the toddler sitting next to them (because they are in their space) or running the other direction when mom says it’s time to leave the park.
They are reacting to situations they have no control over.
Teach your child how to find a solution to the situation instead!
As adults, we respond to situations. We take the time to calm down and think of a way we can fix the problem at hand.
After we acknowledge we are upset, adults automatically seek out calming sensory activities to clear our heads! For example, we sip coffee, chew gum, go on a walk/run, put on fragrant hand lotion or smell essential oils.
The Soothing Sammy System teaches young children these strategies in a way that is easy for them to remember and simple for parents to implement.
Sammy was created by Jeana Kinne, an Early Childhood Specialist, who wanted to teach children how to calm down in a way they understand. Young children learn best with visual guides and hands-on tools.
What better way to teach a child these important skills then with a picture book?
Sammy, a golden retriever, helps children in the book calm down by allowing them to borrow a variety of items he has in his home (a cup with juice, a happy pictures, a place to jump and more.)
Included, along with the book, is a plush version of Sammy. This Sammy stuffed dog is cute and cuddly, but it's purpose is far more meaningful.
Instructions in the back of the book describe how to create a real life version of Sammy's house. When children see Sammy in his home, they instantly remember the story.
This simple visual cue reminds children what calm down strategies they need to use.
The story, plush dog, parent guide and Sammy home teaches your child how to communicate their feelings and solve the problem.